Life's Little Tragedies #1
There's an awful lot of "Life's Little..." posts coming from me lately, isn't there? Well, that's what this blog was intended to be, observations of life and the world around me, us, everyone...the people that you meet, when you're walking down the street. (Sorry...had a Muppet moment there. Won't happen again.)
Anyway, this one is going to be fairly brief. Just a little observance I had after a phone conversation with someone close to me...an epiphany, if you will.
Quite simply, short of dealing with the death of someone close to you, I don't believe there's a worse tragedy we can experience in our lives than not being able to be with someone you love, especially when that person wants to be with you, too.
I call it a worse tragedy than death for the simple reason that in death, the person who has passed on is gone, and there's nothing you can do about it. You miss them, you deal with it, and you carry on with your life.
When someone you love is missing from your life, in that there are circumstances keeping two living people apart, you carry on as well, but knowing they're out there and that you can't do anything about it is nothing short of absolute torture. You have to live your everyday life, but you feel so trapped and helpless. There's probably something you can do about it, but what?!?
Well, like I said, we carry on. It's hard, but we do what we can. We do what we have to. We live our lives and hope that some kind of miracle will happen someday that will bring together two people who were meant to be.
"This Daily Observance was brought to you by AT&T...the company that's always there to remind you just how far apart you are from the ones you love. No matter where in the world you live, there's only one way to spell 'heartbreak': AT&T"
Anyway, this one is going to be fairly brief. Just a little observance I had after a phone conversation with someone close to me...an epiphany, if you will.
Quite simply, short of dealing with the death of someone close to you, I don't believe there's a worse tragedy we can experience in our lives than not being able to be with someone you love, especially when that person wants to be with you, too.
I call it a worse tragedy than death for the simple reason that in death, the person who has passed on is gone, and there's nothing you can do about it. You miss them, you deal with it, and you carry on with your life.
When someone you love is missing from your life, in that there are circumstances keeping two living people apart, you carry on as well, but knowing they're out there and that you can't do anything about it is nothing short of absolute torture. You have to live your everyday life, but you feel so trapped and helpless. There's probably something you can do about it, but what?!?
Well, like I said, we carry on. It's hard, but we do what we can. We do what we have to. We live our lives and hope that some kind of miracle will happen someday that will bring together two people who were meant to be.
"This Daily Observance was brought to you by AT&T...the company that's always there to remind you just how far apart you are from the ones you love. No matter where in the world you live, there's only one way to spell 'heartbreak': AT&T"
posted by aboynamedjimmy at 4:02 AM
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By the way, this post was certainly not meant to lessen anyone's experience of losing someone to Death. If you know me, you know I've been through that many times myself. Dealing with Death is difficult as well, and I don't wish it on anyone.
But I won't spend too much time on that here. "Death" is another subject for another post in the future. :)
You know... I've been living this for 10 years now... It sucks, but eventually, you become numb to it unless you really, really start to think about it...
And yeah, death is much easier to deal with most of the time due to reasons stated...
But remember: "How we deal with Death is at least as important as how we deal with Life, wouldn't you say?"
Death, grand love, tragedies, ecstacies... these are all limit experiences: they push us beyond the bounds of the daily grind and we get to see ourselves (if we're looking.) We don't always like what we see (at least, I don't), and these experiences don't exist for the purpose of being limit experiences, but hey, it's a perk! You're right, death, which provides no hope except for some kind of posthumous reunion in a dubious afterlife, is easier to get past than a situation where you know, in theory, things *should* be able to be otherwise, but there seems to be no way in practice for that to happen.
Here you are, living your life in hope and claiming not to be religious... go listen to some Stryper already! Religion is about being human, not about a fixed-forever set of doctrines. Sorry, but you bring up death, tragedy, love, things "meant to be", and hope... that's religious talk, maybe not doctrinal or creedal talk, but religion is affective before it's cognitive. I'll hope with you that your love that is meant to be will be, my friend.
If it weren't for the ending, I would swear I was just lectured! LOL ;)
Yeah, well, I've worked at an academic institution for eleven years. Throw in a couple of kids, and it becomes obvious why my reflexive method of communicating is lecture! ;-) Hope y'all had a good new years!
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